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Don't Ignore The Impact of Your Mother Heal Your Relationship With Mom

Updated: Jun 15, 2023

A Mom Going Eye to Eye with Her Child
The way your mom looks at you says everything, and the way you look at her says it all.

Discover The Deeper Keys to More Fulfilling Identity, Intimacy, and Income Through Doing 'The Mother Work.'

Your relationship with your mother has shaped you in more ways than you may realize. Mothers are so important to our everything! Is it time to heal your relationship with mom?

As we grow older, we may believe that we have left this influence behind, but the truth is that it can continue to impact us throughout our lives. That's why touching in and doing what I call, 'The Mother Work' is so essential.

The Mother Work is a process of healing and self-discovery that helps you recognize and unpack the issues you may still carry from your relationship with your mother, even if it was wonderful!

Doing this deeper dive can help you move forward with greater self-awareness, compassion, and strength to improve every aspect of your life - from your sense of self to your relationships with others to your earning potential.

The first step in The Mother Work is acknowledging your mothers' impact on your life, no matter how difficult or uncomfortable this may feel.

The next step is doing a forgiveness and release exercise if needed, for any hurt or pain you may feel has been caused, consciously or unconsciously between the two of you. This can be complex, but it is essential to release any anger, resentment, and bitterness that might be holding you back.

Once you have reached a place of forgiveness, you can embrace your mother for who she is, flaws and all. Doing the internal soul search allows you to see her in a new light, with compassion and understanding, so you can build stronger, more positive relationships with her on this side of the veil or the next, if she has passed on.

A direct result of doing this work is when you are able to accept your Mom, you will break through to a whole new level of self-acceptance in what you allow into your life.

Equally as beneficial, is doing The Mother Work if you have deep longing and grief about your Mama. Maybe she died when you were very young, or you never got past missing her presence in your life somehow.

If you take the time to reflect, no matter what your relationship with your mother has been, you will see that she has had an influence on every aspect of your life, your relationships, and your income by either what you allow and accept, or what you resist and reject.

Ask yourself these key questions:

  1. What was I meant to learn from my mother? Did I learn the lesson?

  2. What was I meant to receive from my mother? Did I receive the gift?

  3. What was I meant to give to my mother? Did I give what I was meant to?

  4. Am I allowing and accepting or resisting and rejecting towards my mother?

There is no right or wrong answer. But, it can be telling as to your patterns with identity, intimacy and income. For instance, if you have trouble receiving, or you are an over-giver or you only allow so much in your life, review your answers for clues.

There is a transformation available to open to more in your own life, just by peering in and once again revisiting this most potent, primary relationship with your first parent.

By doing The Mother Work, you can access your full potential for intimacy and income, redefine your self-worth, and cultivate better connections with others. It may not be easy, but the gifts are many. With patience and perseverance, you can, with a new perspective, more readily reap the total rewards of The Mother Work.

Sometimes what you see depends on how you look. Change your perspective, change your life.
- Holly Shantara

I hope that by allowing yourself a change in your perspective of your mother you will change your perspective on yourself. This will lead to a greater experience of you and allowing more good in your personal and professional life.

Your mother gave you life. For this, we can be grateful. Now we return the favor. We heal our mothers also by healing ourselves and this helps bring healing to the ancestral lines, the future generations and the Mama Earth herself.

The Mother Work is a powerful tool for self-discovery and healing. Take the time to discover these keys to your more fulfilled life. And while you are at it, thank your mom.

You are invited to get on a Free Connect Call to help your deeper dive.

© Copyright 2023. All Rights Reserved. Holly Shantara - Divining the Divine®️ On The Go Guidance & LifeStar Coaching®️ For The New Human Leader

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